As the Topic goes, Before Old Age- Grip firmly onto three things.
What are these three things/situations/relationships?
1) Relationship between You and Your Close family members I.e your parents, grandparents, children, sisters, brothers and their children, aunts, uncles. Those who circulate You and You call them Your Own.
The question comes in – old age and kinship ties? How do they relate?
Well, read below.
According to group of researchers,
A Question was asked to participants in a survey:
What are some of the most important things one should consider in life?
Some said Money, Youth age etc. But most of them mentioned 3 things and that’s what we are stressing here.
The relationships with your family members should not get to a point where you can’t stand each other’s presence.
Some family members aren’t good in terms of their characters and best is to avoid them. But that doesn’t mean leaving them for good.
Our life is comprised of Phases which we all pass.
It’s like a Tree which grows and finally dies.
When you are born you go through stages till you are able to take care of your basic needs, you reach an age where you start working, marriage, responsibilities, kids.
Look at everyone.
It’s human nature to wake up and go search for Money to feed your family.
Everyday on that stage- you wake up, go to work.It’s work ,work, work.
Work shouldn’t preoccupy you to an extent that you don’t have time for your Family.
Balance your Time wisely.
Because it’s true you need money so you need to work/study, but it shouldn’t make you reach a point where you have no time for other people. It will reach a Time when You Can No longer work or Study.
When you get occupied just running after this Dunya, it won’t help you when you are at old age.
True money is needed at old age. Savings etc, but who will take care of you when your each an age where you can’t differentiate? Where you can’t suffice your basic needs on your own.
You start behaving like a baby.
Who will take care of you, when you had your own strength back then, you never had time for your family? You were always after gathering Savings.
We are praised by Allah for being the UMMAH of the Medium state.
When He said:
Surah Al-Baqara, Verse 143:
وَكَذَٰلِكَ جَعَلْنَاكُمْ أُمَّةً *وَسَطًا* لِّتَكُونُوا شُهَدَاءَ عَلَى النَّاسِ وَيَكُونَ الرَّسُولُ عَلَيْكُمْ شَهِيدًا وَمَا جَعَلْنَا الْقِبْلَةَ الَّتِي كُنتَ عَلَيْهَا إِلَّا لِنَعْلَمَ مَن يَتَّبِعُ الرَّسُولَ مِمَّن يَنقَلِبُ عَلَىٰ عَقِبَيْهِ وَإِن كَانَتْ لَكَبِيرَةً إِلَّا عَلَى الَّذِينَ هَدَى اللَّهُ وَمَا كَانَ اللَّهُ لِيُضِيعَ إِيمَانَكُمْ إِنَّ اللَّهَ بِالنَّاسِ لَرَءُوفٌ رَّحِيمٌ
“And thus We have made you a medium (just) nation that you may be the bearers of witness to the people and (that) the Apostle may be a bearer of witness to you”
So: Balance your responsibilities.
Look at How Rasul SALLAALLAHU ALAYHI WASSALAM stresses on Family Ties.
The person who perfectly maintains the ties of kinship is not the one who does it because he gets recompensed by his relatives (for being kind and good to them), but the one who truly maintains the bonds of kinship is the one who persists in doing so even though the latter has severed the ties of kinship with him“. [Al-Bukhari].
You can Lose a ticket to Jannah!
Jubair bin Mut’am (may Allah be pleased with him) narrated that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings upon him) said:
“The one who severes the ties of kinship will not enter Paradise.” [Agreed upon].
Think before You act
The same family members will raise you at that old age will take care of you.Will visit you when you are sick. Will wash you when you die and even bury you.
It isn’t any other person, but them.
So Watch out! And Keep your ties Safe!
2) Relationship between You and Your Friend for the Sake of Allah.
There are two types of Friends. Friends for work sake/business as when the business ends then that’s Bye bye to the friendship.
Friends come, friends go.
Those whom you are stuck with and walk with you in every happy and sad phase. Those who guide you and help you with a shoulder to cry on and celebrate your achievement together. Those who want good for you.
They don’t gain anything in terms of Material things in this life from You.
They are not Friends for Maslaha (benefits) they are friends for Allah’s sake.
They don’t befriend you because of your Money, work status, social class, beauty but the befriend you for your Deen
WHY keep such a relationship alive?
During old age those are the people who matter in your life. They will help you and benefit you like your own blood relative.
3) Your Health
Nothing matters more than your Health!
Keep saving but also keep healthy.
Your health is the only thing that will make you enjoy your life.
The three things above connect to you in terms of
1) and 2) Your family and Close friend for the betterment of your heart and emotions during Old Age, so that you don’t get deprived of their love and care.
3) is for the betterment of your Physical Health.
*Reflect on the above
*Choose your friends wisely
*Keep Family Ties
*Plan Your future Today
Written by: Sr. Amatullah B.M.